What you say to yourself is what matters the MOST. I learned that at a very young age.
My life was less than perfect. The first few years of my life were not that great. When I was 2 I became a big sister. My sister Leanne was born and when she was 1 the doctors had discovered that she had epilepsy that damaged the speech part of her brain and she was autistic. The man I believed to be my father wanted nothing to do with her. As his hatred for my sister grew, his twisted love for me grew stronger and he began touching me and told me not to tell my mom because she wouldn’t understand the love he had for me. It was then that I knew at the age of 4 that I had a choice and it wasn’t what he said to me that mattered it was the fact I was telling myself it was wrong that did. I chose to tell my mom what he had done and that began her struggles as a single mom.
Once he left, my mom had to live on assistance and chose to be a stay at home mom to take care of my sister and I. We didn’t have the best clothes, shoes, or toys but my moms love for us made up for all of that. When I was in second grade I was made fun of for my welfare glasses and K-mart clothes and used to cry at night because I felt no one liked me and everyone made fun of me. One night my mom heard me and she came in. I told her what was happening and she said to me “Honey, sticks and stones might break your bones, but names will never hurt you”. I remember going to school and when little Steven was calling me four eyes, I turned to him and said “sticks and stones may break my bones but name will NEVER hurt me” and I stuck out my tongue and walked away. He was shocked and from that point on he stopped picking on me. It was then, that I knew I had the POWER over me and not anyone else.
I would constantly tell myself I can do anything and BE ANYTHING as long as I put my mind to it. What we say to ourselves is the MOST important thing. If I believed the words of others from when I was little to now, I would not be where I am today. Its so important to instill in our youth that the words of others have no meaning unless you give it meaning. Our Self-Talk has much greater POWER than anyone’s words.
Believe in yourself, love yourself, tell yourself that your beautiful, you can do anything, you can be anything and watch how fast your life transforms.
If you can envision it, you can achieve it.
Positive self talk leads to a life of happiness and love.